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About 9:20 AM this morning, my mother came to the end of her life. It was not unexpected and I think she went as peacefully as possible. I signed the paperwork to have my mother given hospice care on Wednesday. Friday, my sister Cheryl called saying that the doctor didn’t think Mom had much longer. [personal profile] loracs and I went to see her and stayed most of the afternoon. She recognized me when I arrived and immediately asked where [personal profile] loracs was. (She happened to be right in front of Mom but it hadn’t registered for some reason.) As the afternoon wore on she slept more and more. By the time we left late afternoon, she wasn’t interacting with any of us much. The hospital room wasn’t large and there was plenty of family around. My two sisters, my baby sister’s husband, my brother, [personal profile] loracs, my niece and both nephews and even my great-niece. I had felt largely in the way most of the afternoon. I could’ve stayed longer, but I felt like I’d said my goodbyes to her Wednesday and staying didn’t seem helpful to anyone.

I don’t know if my mother was ever really proud of me, but she did love me very much. She loved [personal profile] loracs and I even think she was fond of [personal profile] serene (even though I don’t think she liked the whole arrangement. :-) She was given the impossible task of raising a severely disabled, stubborn child along with three other children and managed as well as she could. She was a keypunch operator, a bus driver, factory worker, and hotel housekeeper. She did what she needed to keep us safe and healthy. She lived through long lectures from her son on his homework or latest interest. I’m sure that many of those conversations she could barely follow or care about. Yet she always seemed genuinely interested in my silly schoolboy theories and passions. I know I put her through several kinds of hell. Hopefully, she's somewhere arguing with her mother and petting lots of dachshunds and Boston Terriers. Drinking hot cocoa, bowling, working on jigsaw puzzles and watching television. I will miss her so much. I love you Mom.

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Date: 2017-10-14 10:27 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] snippy
I'm very sorry for your loss. May her memory be a blessing.

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Date: 2017-10-14 11:55 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] submarine_bells
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm glad you were able to be there with her. May you and all who loved her find comfort.

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Date: 2017-10-15 02:10 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] redbird
I'm sorry for your loss.

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Date: 2017-10-15 02:32 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] jesse_the_k
Condolences on your loss, and thank you for this brief glimpse into a wonderful mom.

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Date: 2017-10-15 09:55 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] wild_irises
Oh, Guy, I'm so sorry.

I've always liked everything you've told me about your mother (and respected her very much). I'm sorry I never met her, and I'm sorry for your loss.

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Date: 2017-10-16 01:56 am (UTC)
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