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stonebenderMy answers to kightp
1. Describe your perfect day.
(No fair using my questions against me :-) I’ve got lots of perfect days. Here’s one of them. I wake up to big sex with someone I love. (I will forgo the details ;-) Have a big breakfast, perhaps Mary Lou’s biscuits and gravy or French toast with bacon. Have an adventure, go to a museum, take a walk in a new place something like that. See a play or a movie and have dinner at a new place. Go home and have more sex. Then maybe have a deep philosophical discussion until I fall asleep.
2. Valentine's Day: Threat or menace? Do you or don't you celebrate it, and if you do, how?
I don’t have any strong feelings about Valentine’s Day. If I think of something nice to do for the people I love, I will do that for Valentine’s Day. I would do that for April 23, September 4, any old day. I’m probably not going to do much for Valentine’s Day this year, unless I think of something in the next few days. I don’t expect anything from any of my lover’s on February 14.
3. What scares you?
I’m not fond of heights, but what really scares me is feeling out of control. If I don’t feel people are respecting my wishes around my body or are not listening to me I can really freak out. As a boy, I was in the hospital entirely too much and was ignored often. I was at a teaching hospital and my disability was undiagnosed until I was sixteen. I was a favorite “teaching case”. Think of herds of strangers in white coats poking at you without as much as a hello. So it’s not easy for me to go to the hospital, but I’m not phobic about hospitals they just remind me of times when I was terribly marginalized.
4. What was it like being part of Familiar Men - in particular, how was it different from what you'd expected?
Good question.
I think my experience with Familiar Men is unique in that my partner Carol was a model in Women En Large. It was a transformational experience for many of the models in that project, Carol included. So I had expected a bigger change as a result of modeling. I didn’t expect the modeling itself to be uncomfortable, since I’m not particularly modest and Laurie is a friend. I was surprised to learn that many people didn’t consider my picture a nude because my penis wasn’t visible. I find that disappointing. Generally, I like the picture. I think I had hoped to get more feedback about it from people. Carol got a great deal of strokes from her pictures and I probably hoped to get the same. Not that people haven’t said nice things about it, people have. I think I just wanted it to be a bigger deal. I’m a theater person, I want all the attention. :-) I’m proud of the picture. I’m glad I did it.
5. What famous person/persons (as opposed to your sweeties, 'cause we know that) do you find sexy, and why?
I have entirely too many people I think are sexy. I’m distressed at how often the famous women I’m attracted to are much younger than me. I don’t believe I’m attracted to them because they are young, but I’m as much a victim of the dominant “ beauty “ paradigm as anyone else. I am aware that there are visuals that I enjoy. I have noticed that my preferences change a little when I fall in love with another woman. However that woman looks, I tend to find women who look like them more attractive than I did before anyway enough preamble here are a few famous people I enjoy ( I don’t promise to spell their names correctly). Allison Janney from West Wing, she’s an amazing actress I love her eyes and on talk shows I enjoy her sense of humor. She’d be lots of fun to just hang out with. Janeane Garofalo is incredibly intelligent and I love her ironic sensibilities. She also has amazing lips. Gretchen Mol, she has a great art deco look about her. There are others. I’m a slut.
kightp 1. Describe your perfect day.
(No fair using my questions against me :-) I’ve got lots of perfect days. Here’s one of them. I wake up to big sex with someone I love. (I will forgo the details ;-) Have a big breakfast, perhaps Mary Lou’s biscuits and gravy or French toast with bacon. Have an adventure, go to a museum, take a walk in a new place something like that. See a play or a movie and have dinner at a new place. Go home and have more sex. Then maybe have a deep philosophical discussion until I fall asleep.
2. Valentine's Day: Threat or menace? Do you or don't you celebrate it, and if you do, how?
I don’t have any strong feelings about Valentine’s Day. If I think of something nice to do for the people I love, I will do that for Valentine’s Day. I would do that for April 23, September 4, any old day. I’m probably not going to do much for Valentine’s Day this year, unless I think of something in the next few days. I don’t expect anything from any of my lover’s on February 14.
3. What scares you?
I’m not fond of heights, but what really scares me is feeling out of control. If I don’t feel people are respecting my wishes around my body or are not listening to me I can really freak out. As a boy, I was in the hospital entirely too much and was ignored often. I was at a teaching hospital and my disability was undiagnosed until I was sixteen. I was a favorite “teaching case”. Think of herds of strangers in white coats poking at you without as much as a hello. So it’s not easy for me to go to the hospital, but I’m not phobic about hospitals they just remind me of times when I was terribly marginalized.
4. What was it like being part of Familiar Men - in particular, how was it different from what you'd expected?
Good question.
I think my experience with Familiar Men is unique in that my partner Carol was a model in Women En Large. It was a transformational experience for many of the models in that project, Carol included. So I had expected a bigger change as a result of modeling. I didn’t expect the modeling itself to be uncomfortable, since I’m not particularly modest and Laurie is a friend. I was surprised to learn that many people didn’t consider my picture a nude because my penis wasn’t visible. I find that disappointing. Generally, I like the picture. I think I had hoped to get more feedback about it from people. Carol got a great deal of strokes from her pictures and I probably hoped to get the same. Not that people haven’t said nice things about it, people have. I think I just wanted it to be a bigger deal. I’m a theater person, I want all the attention. :-) I’m proud of the picture. I’m glad I did it.
5. What famous person/persons (as opposed to your sweeties, 'cause we know that) do you find sexy, and why?
I have entirely too many people I think are sexy. I’m distressed at how often the famous women I’m attracted to are much younger than me. I don’t believe I’m attracted to them because they are young, but I’m as much a victim of the dominant “ beauty “ paradigm as anyone else. I am aware that there are visuals that I enjoy. I have noticed that my preferences change a little when I fall in love with another woman. However that woman looks, I tend to find women who look like them more attractive than I did before anyway enough preamble here are a few famous people I enjoy ( I don’t promise to spell their names correctly). Allison Janney from West Wing, she’s an amazing actress I love her eyes and on talk shows I enjoy her sense of humor. She’d be lots of fun to just hang out with. Janeane Garofalo is incredibly intelligent and I love her ironic sensibilities. She also has amazing lips. Gretchen Mol, she has a great art deco look about her. There are others. I’m a slut.
