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stonebenderAs per klwalton's request I'll write a little about people I have met online .
I started doing online stuff way back in the BBS and FidoNet era. At that time I hung out on Sci-Fido, a science-fiction related FidoNet node. I mostly conversed with folk I already knew from science-fiction conventions. To be honest, even now, I have real trouble delineating individuals that I've met online from each other. At least until I met them face-to-face or they somehow become individuals in my head. I'm getting a bit better around this, but it's still a struggle. When I finally got on the Internet for the first time I discovered newsgroups pretty rapidly and lurked on several, Alt.poly being one of the first that became a "must read" newsgroup. It was the first time I encountered the word polyamory. I had been in what I called an open relationship for years before having any other term for it.
I started keeping track of some regular posters. The only ones I remember clearly are Stef (firecat) and Aahz mostly because they posted far more than anyone else. Eventually, I met them both. I can't remember when exactly. I do know that I volunteered to help host their poly without drama or PolyWOD’s in the East Bay. Mostly because I wanted to attend and I knew my house was accessible.
I metgconner, rmjwelll, dawnd, akienm, Loren, Casey, Maggie, the_ogre, (I'm sure I'm missing folk here) all through the SF-Bay poly list. All except gconner, I've met in person.
I also met my first lover outside of Carol through the SF Bay poly list,daltong. She noticed my posts on SF Bay poly and had followed the link to my homepage in my .sig and wrote me a pretty "foreword" e-mail which turned into an approximately six-month affair. It never really got to the relationship stage although I still love her and probably always will. It's pretty clear to me that the main reason I'm poly identified is that I have yet to fall out of love with anyone I've fallen in love with, even though in at least one case, (and I'm not referring to daltong) it would be better if I could.
Most of the other people that I know through meeting online are folk that I have met throughserenejournal or I've known from alt.poly and appeared on livejournal. My relationship with serenejournal began remarkably like my relationship with daltong. It appears that I need a really big clue by 4 to notice anyone’s interest in me and I am much too shy to profess any interest without clear and ever present signals. We knew each other casually on alt.poly. I have to accept this is true even though I don't really remember. serenejournal has the documentation. E-mail progressed to online chatting which led to phone calls and then our first meeting in January 2003. So, in some very real ways the people that I have met online have dramatically changed my life for the good.
klwalton's request I'll write a little about people I have met online .I started doing online stuff way back in the BBS and FidoNet era. At that time I hung out on Sci-Fido, a science-fiction related FidoNet node. I mostly conversed with folk I already knew from science-fiction conventions. To be honest, even now, I have real trouble delineating individuals that I've met online from each other. At least until I met them face-to-face or they somehow become individuals in my head. I'm getting a bit better around this, but it's still a struggle. When I finally got on the Internet for the first time I discovered newsgroups pretty rapidly and lurked on several, Alt.poly being one of the first that became a "must read" newsgroup. It was the first time I encountered the word polyamory. I had been in what I called an open relationship for years before having any other term for it.
I started keeping track of some regular posters. The only ones I remember clearly are Stef (
firecat) and Aahz mostly because they posted far more than anyone else. Eventually, I met them both. I can't remember when exactly. I do know that I volunteered to help host their poly without drama or PolyWOD’s in the East Bay. Mostly because I wanted to attend and I knew my house was accessible.I met
gconner, rmjwelll, dawnd, akienm, Loren, Casey, Maggie, the_ogre, (I'm sure I'm missing folk here) all through the SF-Bay poly list. All except gconner, I've met in person.I also met my first lover outside of Carol through the SF Bay poly list,
daltong. She noticed my posts on SF Bay poly and had followed the link to my homepage in my .sig and wrote me a pretty "foreword" e-mail which turned into an approximately six-month affair. It never really got to the relationship stage although I still love her and probably always will. It's pretty clear to me that the main reason I'm poly identified is that I have yet to fall out of love with anyone I've fallen in love with, even though in at least one case, (and I'm not referring to daltong) it would be better if I could.Most of the other people that I know through meeting online are folk that I have met through
serenejournal or I've known from alt.poly and appeared on livejournal. My relationship with serenejournal began remarkably like my relationship with daltong. It appears that I need a really big clue by 4 to notice anyone’s interest in me and I am much too shy to profess any interest without clear and ever present signals. We knew each other casually on alt.poly. I have to accept this is true even though I don't really remember. serenejournal has the documentation. E-mail progressed to online chatting which led to phone calls and then our first meeting in January 2003. So, in some very real ways the people that I have met online have dramatically changed my life for the good.